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On this week’s episode, we’re joined by the amazing Bobbi-Jo Molokken! As most ADHD and Autistic parents of ADHD and Autistic kids know things can get out of hand quickly. You feel all the pressure to parent well and meet your kids needs while preparing them for the “real world” and yet it feels like sand through your fingers trying to keep it all going. What most parents don’t know is how the F do I even help my ADHD or Autistic kid with executive functioning. Bobbi-Jo is here to help, as an ADHD mom of two ADHD kids AND a licensed therapist and ADHD coach, Bobbi-Jo can help from all angles! Answering questions about reasonable expectations, how to support effectively, and on the bonus episode her own experience with executive functioning, you don’t want to miss this one!

We have a brand new logo to accompany this week’s episode! We’re explaining why that is, what the new flag by AceinGrace means, and we’re answering some questions about life on the asexuality spectrum. We’re covering if hormones are the reason someone’s asexual, what to do about it, and how to navigate uncomfortable Public Displays of Affection from friends.

This episode explores ADHD, medication options, and navigating healthcare as a college student. We share insight about diagnosis, medication types, and advocating for support at college - and with your doctor!

Disclaimer: We are not medical professionals! Do some more research and touch base with your provider, please.

We’ve been asked to give our top tips for heat intolerance for autistic and ADHD folks! Join us to hear what we’d suggest to stay cool and how to survive summer. Curious about how to start your very own EveryFans (or what that is?) Listen to find out!

We’re talking all about how to be a better ally to asexual and autistic people! We’re also debunking even more myths and stereotypes about autism. Wondering about what counts as a special interest? Or what the "broader autistic phenotype" or "female autism" really means? Join us to hear more!

In this episode, we’re examining how PDA & BPD can impact romantic relationships. If you’re wondering how to avoid triggers, feel loved, and build connection with your partner, this episode is for you!

In this episode, we are busting the most common autism myths that still circulate today! Whether you are an autistic adult, a parent of a newly diagnosed child, a therapist like us, or an educator, understanding the truth about autistic individuals is crucial. 

 If submission has ever felt like a demand and triggered your PDA, this week’s episode might resonate with you! We’re answering if you’re a “bad sub” if you’re a PDAer, how to navigate explaining your nervous system to a partner, and why kink is healing. We explore a few ways people can heal from trauma and feel empowered by kink. Join us!

Have you ever wondered where that praise or degradation kink stems from? Or if it's possible to hyperfocus on kink and fetishes? Let's talk about it on this week's episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve! We're talking about the importance of meeting your needs, libido discrepancy, differences of opinion when it comes to kink, and more!

Ready to hear all about chronic pain, illness, and being autistic? We're ready to talk about it! Join us for a raw and real conversation about what it's like to navigate these challenges, especially when the onset is pretty sudden. 

To wrap up our mini-series on Teens this week, we’re mostly talking to parents about how to support their autistic and ADHD teenagers! We’re joined by Jamie Roberts, an AuDHD LMFT, who specializes in supporting teens and has published two books for ND teens. We’re answering how to know when they need down time, the importance of recharging, and when you ought to be concerned. We’re also discussing why neurodivergent teens may not seem “motivated” toward independence these days - and how to support them.

This week's episode involves us exploring the complex topics of self-harm, self-stimulatory behaviors, and support strategies for autistic and ADHD teens. (We definitely talk directly about all of these topics, so feel free to skip this one if you need to!) We're sharing about harm reduction, stigma, communicating with parents and guardians, and ways to support teens compassionately.

Welcome to season 2! We're starting off with a small series on Autistic & AuDHD Teens in light of our upcoming GEMS Neurodiversity Summit: Autistic + ADHD Teens event in May. For today’s topic, we’re discussing success during teen years and answering listener questions.

You'll get some school accommodation ideas, autistic-teenager-friendly job ideas, and more!

Our season finale is a special one- we’re participating in the 4th annual Podcasthon! This week, over a thousand podcasts are highlighting a charity of their choice and we’re choosing to support the Black Trans Travel Fund! Tune in to hear about why we chose them, what they’re all about, and how to support them. 

We’re also answering questions regarding the intersections of autism, race, sexuality, and gender. How do you know if you’re masking or code-switching? Whose parent gets to decide if you’re trans or if it’s somehow “just your autism”? We weigh in on these topics and provide some supportive ideas and words of wisdom.

In this week’s episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve, we are exploring the complexities of “coming out” as autistic, with a focus on the decision-making process regarding disclosure to family and medical professionals. We take the nuances of family dynamics into consideration and examine the potential risks and benefits of sharing your neurotype, as well as the importance of finding supportive medical providers! Listen to learn why we prioritize self-advocacy, safety, and the significance of community support for autistic folks.

This week is all about adult autistic meltdowns on the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast. We discuss our personal experiences with meltdowns, the differences between autistic and Borderline meltdowns, and the importance of understanding your own unique sensory triggers. We talk about the need for community support, coping strategies, and the significance of meeting basic needs to help manage overwhelming situations. We also dispel some misconceptions about meltdowns and highlight the importance of finding the right therapeutic support- it is out there!

This week on Aces Up Your Sleeve, we’re joined by guest Patrick Casale, LMHC, to discuss neurodivergent entrepreneurship! If you’re autistic and struggling at work, AuDHD with a million ideas and interests but aren’t sure how to start, or neurodivergent and needing a change in your career, this episode is for you. We touch on burnout, juggling friendships, the struggle of finishing a project, and more! We’re highlighting lived experience and giving real ideas to help you navigate these tricky topics.

On Hit Me Again, our exclusive paid bonus content with our guest Patrick Casale, LMHC, we answer whether or not autism plays a role in running your own business. We’re talking more about burnout, communication, and the importance of community! Find that in the "Hit Me Again" collection here on Patreon.

If you're feeling helpless or hopeless right now, you're not alone- and there are things we can do (as ADHDers and autistic folks) to help make movement and change! We're answering questions this week about advocacy, activism, and volunteering in our communities. We discuss different roles we can play based on our strengths and weaknesses, ways to find places to volunteer, and the differences between visibility and change-making. Listen in for some fresh insight and check the show notes for resources!

How do autistic and ADHD people make romantic Valentine’s Day plans? We’re covering that on this week’s episode of Aces Up Your Sleeve! Whether you’re throwing a party with friends or trying to take your partner out on a date, we’re giving our ideas on how to make it an unforgettable time. Is it the thought that counts or should you snag inspiration from movies?

Need to brush up on your Neurodivergent Flirting Skills? Flirting can feel like a complex game with no clear rules, especially in the context of modern dating. In the latest episode of the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast, we explore the nuances of flirting, how to recognize when someone is interested, the challenges of interpreting intentions, and how to approach flirting in a more effective way for autistic folks! You’re right at home if you feel like you’re playing a game that’s outside of your control. Join us to hear what to do about that.

Whether you’re a millennial or not, you may be wondering why so many millennials are suddenly realizing they’re autistic! We attempt to answer that, as well as provide insight about autistic millennials in general and what similarities we have (if any.) Is it a Tiktok Diagnosis, a trend, or deep self-realizations?

We discussed being autistic at work in this episode! How do you move up the corporate ladder? Should you even try? What makes a good supervisor? We share our tips and tricks for supervising people, carving out roles that work with your strengths, and more! If you’ve ever wondered how autistic people supervise or manage, this episode will answer those questions.

We’re letting you in on a little known secret: Where to find autistic therapists and community! It shouldn’t be a secret but it’s tough to know where to look to find others like yourself- and us. We discuss the importance of community, tips to getting closer to other autistic therapists, and how to start a community space if you feel up to it.

For Episode 12, we're joined by B Lourenco, a Licensed Mental Health Counselor, to discuss the complexities of Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) and its impact on parenting and relationships. We explored the nuances of PDA, the challenges faced by parents of PDA children, communication and collaboration strategies, and the importance of repair in relationships. B shares insights from her personal and professional experiences, emphasizing the need for understanding, autonomy, and playful communication in navigating the unique dynamics of PDA!

Just in time for a couple of holidays, we’re talking all about being autistic and giving & receiving gifts! If you’re someone who struggles with giving the “right” reaction to presents or with knowing what gifts to get people, you’ll find some helpful tips and tricks on this episode. We’re also giving you some ideas for how to create new traditions, accommodate yourself, and set boundaries around holidays and gift exchanges. 

We've been asked to talk about how to prepare (emotionally) for an autism assessment and the results, so we're giving you our favorite tips. We also cover how to prepare yourself for potential second opinions and how to secure an affirming evaluator in the first place. If you've ever wondered if it's worth it to get diagnosed, this episode (and our Patreon bonus content) are for you!

Are you ready to talk about demisexuality? We’re helping listeners explore whether or not they may be autistic, demisexual and/or kinky! We debunk the “pillar” of a romantic relationship, talk about the impacts of autistic masking on desire and connection, and explore other ways to connect intimately with people to get your needs met. If you’ve been wondering how to reconcile being on the asexuality spectrum AND being kinky, this is the episode for you!

Join Sabrina, Kade, and our guest Olivia Belknap, AMFT, as we discuss autistic medical challenges, medical self-advocacy, and more! Many of us are more sensitive to meds, need support conveying what we mean to providers, struggle with providers who think we’re malingering or exaggerating our experiences, and could use extra tips in navigating complex medical systems. We’re sharing our tips and tricks, as well as validating that it’s not always an “us problem”! Long COVID, autonomic struggles, Mast Cell Activation Syndrome, and other common health challenges for autistic people are discussed.

In the 7th episode of the Aces Up Your Sleeve podcast, we discuss the complexities of Family Meal Time, especially for folks with dietary restrictions and sensory needs. We’re highlighting the importance of self-advocacy, communication, and setting boundaries to navigate family dynamics during the holidays. The conversation also touches on coping strategies for dealing with uncomfortable comments from family members and the significance of prioritizing mental health over traditional expectations. We cover this for both teens and adults. Join us to hear all of our tips, tricks, and ideas to navigate holiday meals with family!

Our fifth episode is all about navigating Competing Sensory Needs! Neurodivergent sensory needs are real and valid - so how do we support each other when ours all differ? We’ll be sharing about the importance of compromise, strategic communication, and understanding sensory needs. We go further than just different sensory needs and talk about varied “love languages” and communication needs too, providing ideas for communication techniques to support each other. Whether it’s family, friends, a partner, or an extracurricular group, we’ve got you covered!